tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-231185021639571421.post8335270449197509272..comments2023-09-10T06:25:06.190-07:00Comments on Crossdreamer in a Bottle: Freedom vs CompanionshipSarahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14806332862527107509noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-231185021639571421.post-33730856768387920912011-12-06T12:32:54.957-08:002011-12-06T12:32:54.957-08:00I understand your difficulty. I didn't tell m...I understand your difficulty. I didn't tell my wife fully about myself and my crossdressing struggles until 7 months or so after our wedding. But it was one of the most important things I ever did. For me one of the most important things in loving someone is to be fully known. I hate hiding things. I want to be known and understood, even if that means some awkwardness, or need for apology and forgiveness. It turned out really well. She was actually relieved I struggled with crossdressing rather than pornography. But she believed, like I did as well, that crossdressing was something harmful that I should stop.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-231185021639571421.post-42416540994307419422011-02-14T21:36:28.119-08:002011-02-14T21:36:28.119-08:00Wow, your story really really resonates with me. I...Wow, your story really really resonates with me. It's nice knowing there are people out there who can relate on an issue like this. I was wondering if we could chat directly by email? Please drop me a message - my email is linked from my profile. Hope to hear from you.Jasonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08499395680090259703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-231185021639571421.post-28749329669541408352011-02-07T07:06:24.875-08:002011-02-07T07:06:24.875-08:00Thanks for the suggestion, my girlfriend are prett...Thanks for the suggestion, my girlfriend are pretty close though and generally pretty happy together. I can't really imagine leaving her to go look elsewhere. I think if my needs were more strongly focussed on the actual sex, it might cause an issue, but for me it's more about the desire to have a female body, which is there irrespective of my partner's tendencies. I have a good imagination though, so I find that (usually) I can use that in the bedroom and it is enough to get "over the line", so to speak. I can very much imagine my girlfriend saying "I wish you'd never told me" if I were to come out about it. I'm preempting that but not telling her ;)Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14806332862527107509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-231185021639571421.post-71469907898172017622011-02-07T06:42:19.714-08:002011-02-07T06:42:19.714-08:00I came over to your blog from the crossdreamer blo...I came over to your blog from the crossdreamer blog. I'm a woman with mild tendencies to imagine myself a man. I don't think that is terribly uncommon; it is just so easily accepted in surface ways that it isn't much named. I don't have any clear view on how you are handling things with your girlfriend--I'm in a situation of telling partial truths myself. But I wanted so say that in the very long run, don't give up on finding a partner as a crossdreamer. If you look in some groups on Fetlife you will find there are people who identify as butch straight women, if that would feel like a complimentary match to you.Pandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05618092077541266614noreply@blogger.com