"I don't understand why he wants to be a woman. Why can't he just accept who he is?"
"He just needs to find a woman he likes."
"He should realise that it's not all fun and games being a girl. I don't know why he thinks it would be better."
"He must just have low self esteem or something."
"Maybe he had problems as a child?"
I have not experienced any of these but I can imagine these sorts of reactions and the thin veneer of "understanding" people would project in order to be polite.
This is not rational or reasonable. The tide of my longing is so much deeper than I can express and while its strength waxes and wanes, it's always there. Unshakeable, ever-present, unyielding.