"I don't understand why he wants to be a woman. Why can't he just accept who he is?"
"He just needs to find a woman he likes."
"He should realise that it's not all fun and games being a girl. I don't know why he thinks it would be better."
"He must just have low self esteem or something."
"Maybe he had problems as a child?"
No.
I have not experienced any of these but I can imagine these sorts of reactions and the thin veneer of "understanding" people would project in order to be polite.
This is not rational or reasonable. The tide of my longing is so much deeper than I can express and while its strength waxes and wanes, it's always there. Unshakeable, ever-present, unyielding.
It is strange that you state that the thought of becoming a woman turns you on, yet you presuppose the equivalent general psychological desire as "hardwired"
ReplyDeleteNot at all. You're making the mistake of assuming that being turned on is psychological. What you're turned on by is very much hardwired. If you don't believe me, try being turned on by something other than what currently works for you. Similarly, explain why religious institutions have universally failed to (truly) convert gay men to heterosexuality. You don't choose what you're attracted to. It's built in.
DeleteI am saying that what we are turned on by is a permanent psychological imprint, and that dysphoria is a non-fixed psychological phenomenon, yet you seemingly privilege it as beyond psychological. It makes sense to state that the sexual desire is a fixed psychological structure, and the general (internalized) psychological equivalent is just psychological.
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